A different kind of New Year’s resolution.

While it’s completely arbitrary that somehow January 1st is different from December 31st, nevertheless people tend to treat it that way and they make resolutions. I want to suggest a single resolution, one that will make a huge difference not only in your life but in the lives of everyone you interact with. This resolution reads: “I resolve, going forward, to stop making everything about me.” A shorter version would be, “I resolve to get over myself.”

But you say “I don’t make everything about myself, do I?” Maybe, maybe not, it’s more likely that you’re not even aware of making everything about yourself. So ask yourself the following questions: “Do I find myself suddenly flaring up in anger over something that someone just said, before I’m even aware of why I’m angry?” “Do I think that a lot of people are trying to offend me?” “Do I get offended easily? Do I not even know what getting offended easily means? ”

Like most decent New Year’s resolutions this one is difficult to keep. In fact, it’s more difficult to keep than almost any other resolution, because people who make everything about themselves are generally not aware that they’re making anything about themselves. They are just simply offended at or angry about a whole lot of stuff, since it feels like others’ fault.

Here’s another one that will help you keep the first one. “I will think about things that would be appropriate last thoughts if I were to die in the next minute”–because you could……die that is! Or substitute “I will refrain from saying things that I would not want to be my last words on earth” for the previous sentence. You really wouldn’t want your last thoughts or words to be trivial, would you?  However, there’s a huge problem in all this. I am presupposing that you have enough self awareness and self control to keep resolutions. I don’t, do you?

The good news is, we neither need to make nor keep resolutions, if we accept the greatest gift ever offered. This gift is free for the taking, there are no hidden traps in reaching for it, and all you have to do is put aside your pride, because it is an undeserved gift! God loves you as you are, with all your flaws, and all you have to do is acknowledge, “Jesus Christ is Lord”–because He is–and then accept the gift that He will transform you. The less effort on your part to transform yourself, the more this spirit will do the work.

Ephesians 2: 4-9. “But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.”

Author: iamcurmudgeon

When I began this blog, I was a 70 year old man, with a young mind and a body trying to recover from a stroke, and my purpose for this whole blog thing is to provoke thinking, to ridicule reflex reaction, and provide a legacy to my children.

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