If you’re a regular reader of my blog, all 4 of you, you’re probably getting bored with my harping on this subject. What subject, you ask? If you don’t know, you’re not a regular reader so you can’t accuse me of being tedious, can you? If you are a real regular, then you will understand that the importance of the subject justifies the interest. As you know, I have been writing, some would say railing or ranting or both, about the outrageous success of the LGBT marketing/propaganda machine in changing language, then minds, and finally policy makers’ attitudes towards their, ahem, orientation/desires/lifestyle/choices. It’s all fine, just don’t mention sexual behavior. If not for strong admonitions against things like homosexual acts, dressing like the other sex, and self mutilation in the Bible, probably most heterosexual i.e. “cisgender, straight binary-affirming” people of the United States would be tolerant of LGBT behavior. Naturally, an effective propaganda machine must mount a strong re-education effort to and in churches.
From The Washington Post, by Michelle Boorstein: “Josh Gonnerman, 29, a theology PhD student at Catholic University, writes for the spiritualfriendship website and speaks easily about embracing his gayness. When he came out in the mid-2000s, Gonnerman says, church leaders weren’t speaking about celibacy because they had ‘sort of thrown their lot in with the Republican Party’ and wouldn’t talk inclusively in any way about LGBT people. The LGBT group he and Tushnet (Eve, another writer on the same website) are part of at Cathedral of St. Matthew the Apostle, he said, has gone from more of a “support group” to something more upbeat that organizes social and spiritual activities for members — not all of whom accept church teaching on celibacy.
“The desire of these new celibacy advocates to emphasize the positive and to not have LGBT people defined by their sex lives has left what can look like a gaping hole: Virtual silence on the difficulty of not having sex. Or about sex in general. Many of the essays on the blog tend toward the academic, removed from physical human passions or desires. Some say they are simply hesitant to speak or write publicly about topics, such as whether it’s okay to think about sex, or to masturbate, and whether they find celibacy difficult.
“Tushnet urges people not to focus so much on the sex they can’t have and instead find other places to pursue intimacy, such as deeper friendships that could be seen as spouselike, co-living arrangements, public service and the arts as ways to express intimacy. More typical is the experience of Charleigh Linde, 24, who said she was sick of “lying all the time” and came out last year to her community at the conservative evangelical megachurch McLean Bible, in Vienna, which she calls incredibly warm — “like family.” Her pastor told her she could remain as a leader of young adult ministry but only if she was celibate. Many at the church told her that they were praying for her to become straight, yet several of her McLean friends went with her last month to a conference called the Reformation Project, where hundreds of gay Christians trained at ways to promote what they see as full equality — not celibacy — at their conservative churches. These are people who aren’t comfortable with the liturgy or theology of liberal churches.“Maybe it’s the service, or that they don’t put as much emphasis on the Bible. I wouldn’t want to go to a gay church because I don’t want that to be the focus. It’s about Jesus,” Linde said of affirming churches. The theology around celibacy doesn’t make sense to her either, and Linde now says she believes gay relationships are okay. She expects this will eventually force her to leave McLean. Yet she considers it progress that she remains — for now — in leadership as an openly gay person.”
There was a lot more in the WaPo article but for the sake of brevity, I will leave the rest of the article out and focus on the significance of passages I put in bold print. “Embracing his gayness.” What, exactly, is gayness if homosexual sex isn’t on the table? Gonnerman and Tushnet are among the 12 writers on the spiritualfriendship website, which is named after the title of a book by another of those writers, Wesley Hill. The book is Spiritual Friendship: Finding love in the church as a celibate, gay Christian. I have made this point before, but will beat it to death if need be: If two or more people of the same sex have no desire for sex with each other, but just want to be friends, what’s the problem? It’s just a friendship, perfectly fine with even us Bible thumpers. What is the need for a website devoted to the idea of “celibate gay Christians”, with 12 writers, some of whom also write books on the subject. What about that subject necessitates hundreds of thousands of words? I will get to that.
“Sort of thrown their lot in with the Republican Party.” Huh? What does that have to do with church leaders speaking about celibacy? “Not all of whom accept church teaching on celibacy.” In other words, some of the members of their intimate group believe that homosexual and lesbian sex is okay for Christians. Josh and Eve, if you have a group made up of Christians who are struggling with unbiblical sexual desires, and some of the members resolve to be celibate and others think acting on their desires are okay, and they all socialize together, what is inevitable? Everyone will embrace celibacy? No, try again. The temptation for sex will grow? Getting warmer! Having trouble with this. Okay, I will say it, many of the celibate will fall. Just like a social group of alcoholics who meet in a bar, and some belong to AA and are sober, and others still imbibe. How long before the sober numbers decline!
“Not have LGBT people defined by their sex lives has left what can look like a gaping hole.” If you are homosexual or lesbian and are not engaging in and have no desire for sex with your sex, then how is homosexuality or “gayness ” a part of your identity? I go back to what Josh said about “embracing his gayness” What the heck is that? I am open to being educated, but I have to believe that homosexual desires play a big part. The author of the WaPo article says the gaping hole is sex, having or not having, even discussing it or celibacy. That’s my point about this “gay Christian celibacy” movement. In the Victorian Era in England, people covered more of their bodies than ever before, but more people were sex obsessed than before or even now. The Muslims who insist women wear burquas are actually more sex obsessed than the French men who see lots of female skin. Sexual lust is NOT diminished by covering the body or trying to be celibate, it is inflamed!
“See as full equality–not celibacy–in their conservative churches.” Here’s the issue that makes “Spiritual Friendship” so problematic. The SF people are forming social groups within their churches with LGBT people who regard unbiblical sex as equality! Under those conditions, celibacy is doomed, lust wins in the end. Why? That’s how human neuroscience works. When we try to deny, or overcome our temptation, especially lust, on our own willpower or with our own affirmations, we have to visualize the very thing we want to avoid. “I am not going to think about sex with that sexy whomever” causes you to keep seeing the image of whomever. Your subconscious doesn’t know that you are trying to avoid that, because it’s operating mechanism is designed to go after what you visualize. Look at the example of Charleigh Linde, above. She embraced the idea of celibacy, but went to the Reformation Project, and now says “The theology around celibacy doesn’t make sense to her either, and Linde now says she believes gay relationships are okay.”
So now to summarize three points. 1. I titled this post the power three letters and one syllable. I refer to gay, which became the replacement for homosexual, because gay was a positive word, had no prior negative connotations, is short and easy to say, and to fit on signs. 2. I said that I would get to the answer to What about that subject necessitates hundreds of thousands of words? The subject of spiritual friendship is really trying to unlink the word “gay” from homosexual acts, and such contortions require mucho words. But it won’t work. 3. The power of converting “gay” from happy to homo was that it could refer to homosexuality in a vague way, but actually meant nothing. It was a successful way of sanitizing homosexual acts. It was marketing an agenda, and obviously worked. LGBT propaganda seduced even the church, and the damage is hardly done. I just read today about one school in Britain where LGBT, emphasis on the T, propaganda damage breaks my heart. Peter Heck, writing for The Resurgent:
Dorothy Stringer School, in Brighton, has had 40 pupils between the ages of eleven and 16 who do not identify with their biological sex. A further 36 pupils identify as ‘gender-fluid’…..Think about that: 76 gender-confused students in one school. The LGBT sexual revolution breeds the confusion; they provoke it, encourage it, then thrive on it and use it to their advantage. And in a decade’s time, when mutilated, infertile, depressed and suicidal young adults look back with regret and ask us, “Why did you let me do this to myself?” it will be too late.” It all started with gay.