The heart is a tinderbox and sparks are flying everywhere.
The new Gillette commercial and the new APA “guidelines” on harmful masculinity might suggest that men should become more like women, or ought to manifest more “feminine” traits. But what if women are becoming more like men as well? A new survey reported on byThe Independent found that more than a third of women watch pornography at least once a week. 90% of the 3,000 female respondents said they watched it online and 2/3 said they watched it on their smartphones. In the survey, 31% of the women said they watched porn every week and another 30% said they did so a few times a month. Another recent study found that about half of young adult women agree that viewing pornography is acceptable and 1/3 of young women reported watching porn.
If that’s not enough to convince someone that this gap between men and women succumbing to the scourge of porn is narrowing, one of the world’s largest porn sitesreleased data from their siteshowing that women are 113% more likely to search the term “hardcore” than men, and are over 105% more likely to seek out genres of porn like “gangbang” and “rough sex.” So, what does this mean? Lots of people have bought the lie that porn is okay as long as it’s not harming someone else. Does that include the user? Before I explain how porn makes slaves, I want to address the greater lie about something being okay as long as we don’t see the visible harm. I know people who think value judgements are “intolerant”, who are perfectly okay with anyone doing almost anything as long as they don’t harm someone else. That phrase in bold should read, as long as I don’t see the harm that is being done.
Remember the expression DefiningDeviancy Down, coined by the late Senator Daniel Patrick Moynihan in 1993. Moynihan based his phrase on the theory of Emile Durkheim that there is a limit to the bad behavior that a society can tolerate before it has to start lowering its standards. In ’93, the senator applied his slogan to the “moral deregulation” that had eroded families, increased crime, and produced the mentally ill “homeless” population. That same year columnist Charles Krauthammer expanded Moynihan’s point by proposing the reverse — that not only were we “normalizing what was once considered deviant,” but we were also “finding deviant what was once considered normal.” In time, the inevitable lower standards and moral relativism brought us the movies, TV shows, fashions, sex norms and web pages we have today. Deviant and normal swapped places. I define deviant as behavior which departs or deviates from societal norms, and which by its nature generates shame internally.
No doubt the hardcore “toleristas” (tolerance is the highest value) will dismiss my views as judgmental–the lowest value–but those who are less doctrinaire will acknowledge that more has been lost than gained by elevating tolerance to the throne. I am still glad that our society as a whole no longer simply condemns and dismisses people who are enslaved to deviant desires or sexual confusion. The fact is, many people who appear normal and moral on the surface are also captive to desires they are ashamed of and want to be liberated from. Which brings me to the subject of pornography. There is no better example of DefiningDeviancy Down than the widespread availability and viewing of pornography. My title, The heart is a tinderbox and sparks are flying everywhere, refers to the inescapability of porn. It also refers to the latent addiction waiting to be kindled. Like drugs, alcohol and other mood and mind altering substances, pornography can shock the nervous system into creating an instant addiction pathway.
This will take more explanation. Some people are particularly susceptible to becoming addicted to something that has no effect on someone else. I have used cigarettes once, LSD twice, cocaine once, peyote once, marijuana a few dozen times and alcohol moderately, with no desire to continue once I decided to stop. Other people can find that just a few uses lead to inability to stop. I don’t know why those differences exist. Pornography is the same phenomenon. It is pointless to describe all the harm done by the pornography industry, from the users to exploited women and children, to victims of crimes committed by users who need a greater and greater fix of sensation. It certainly isn’t victimless. Less obvious is the harm done by transgender ideology.
What could be more deviant, in the sense I described, than disgust with your own natural sex? In my post called What Is Mental Health I go into detail about what so-called gender dysphoria is. Do you think that the propaganda that is put out by the trans activists, that gender and/or sex is a social construct, and is really “non binary”, and the “toxic masculinity” propaganda are unrelated? Really? Both forms of propaganda are pushing the agenda of compressing or collapsing the differences between men and women, both physically–trans–and behaviorally. Both represent a hatred of those inborn differences, which is automatically a hatred of God’s design for humanity, which is therefore hatred of God. Both harbor enmity for the Bible and any preaching from it, because the real enmity is for any standard greater than the feelings of the ultra sensitive.
There is no tolerance for disagreement either, and no reticence to use the coercive power of the state to bring the “intolerant” to heel. In the United States, cities and local governments have been passing “non-discrimination” ordinances, forbidding “public accommodations” to discriminate against gender identity and sexual orientation. Sounds good right, discrimination is bad. If a church is considered a “public accommodation”, then preaching from the Bible anything about gender identity and sexual orientation could be forbidden, their hiring practices restricted and they could be forced to host homosexual weddings and similar events. So far, the only test of such an ordinance, in De Pere, Wisconsin, was struck down by a judge as unconstitutional. So far…. I predict more of this is coming. Tolerance is a one way street it seems. Ask Jack Phillips, the baker who has been persecuted by the Colorado Civil Rights Commission.
When I began this blog, I was a 70 year old man, with a young mind and a body trying to recover from a stroke, and my purpose for this whole blog thing is to provoke thinking, to ridicule reflex reaction, and provide a legacy to my children.
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