Few people think about language, they just talk. But language reflects the reality of the culture that uses it. Or does language create the reality? Or both? A noun refers to a physical thing, not it’s actions. Verbs are the actions. Human beings are responsible for their actions and their words, but things are not responsible. I will deal with that idea in part three.
Things, nouns, don’t act, they are acted upon. This morning I drank coffee. You weren’t there, yet you picture what I just wrote, because my words, reflecting the reality of my action, acted upon you. How? When you read the italicized sentence (or if you heard me say it), you instantly formed a picture. Had you not, my sentence would have made no sense. So language stimulates your forming of a mental image while it reflects or describes my action. The details of the picture–the cup, brand of coffee, how I adulterated the coffee–were not specified, so you filled those in, based on how you would tailor that action to yourself. You might have assumed I drank from a cup of sorts, that I made it just before I drank it, and therefore it was hot. But for all you know, I could have been drinking cold brew from a jar or can. Nevertheless, I described my reality, you created your own version, so language both reflects or describes AND creates!
A pronoun (I, me, he, she, herself, you, it, that, they, each, few, many, who, whoever, whose, someone, everybody, etc.) is a word that takes the place of a noun. In the sentence Joe saw Jill, and he waved at her, the pronouns he and her take the place of Joe and Jill, respectively. There are three types of pronouns denoting animate organisms: subject (she, he); object (her, him); or possessive (hers, his). Those pronouns can describe human beings or animals, including insects, but not inanimate objects, minerals or plants. Why not plants? While even plants reproduce sexually, they are not animate. Most plants are hermaphrodite, even if some of them (hazel, for example) keep their male and female flowers apart. But some plants are dioecious, i.e. they have separate sexes. Some wild plants, such as nettle and red campion, are dioecious. If your holly never has any berries, that’s probably because it’s male. In the world of nature, many plants and virtually all animals, the male, even if just a part of a single organism, fertilizes and the female (or female part) is fertilized.
But pronouns that refer to sex also denote animate organisms. Subject pronouns act (she poured), object pronouns are acted upon (was poured for her), possessive pronouns denote use or ownership (the cup is hers). Plants neither act nor own, and though they can be acted on they are never referred to by their sex, at least in English. Pronouns for inanimate (i.e. lacking consciousness or power of motion) organisms or objects are it, singular, and they, them, plural. Okay Uncle Curmudgeon, what’s your point? Pronouns represent nouns, and all nouns that reproduce sexually are represented by pronouns that are male OR female, but only if they are animate. Even parts of organisms that reproduce sexually have clear anatomical and functional differences and are identifiable as male or female. Even surrogate or laboratory produced babies and animals were inseminated or impregnated.
To summarize, if a noun is animate and reproduces sexually, pronouns representing that noun are either male or female. Which brings us to the so-called transgender or transsexual. The latter term is far more accurate, because all reproduction is either sexual or asexual. Whether you separate gender identity from sexual identity or not, genders don’t reproduce sexually, only sexes do. Human beings do not reproduce asexually! Therefore, making up pronouns like Xe or whatever, or insisting on being referred to as they because you reject your biological sex, or claiming that gender is merely cultural and has nothing to do with your sex, then creating a class of crime called misgendering, is all part of the same thing: A war on reality, which starts with a war on your own native language. It’s irrelevant whether another culture recognizes non-binary genders, or whether any person “identifies” as non-binary, or even if they change their appearance using drugs, hormones or surgery. The world of sexually reproducing animate nouns, which includes EVERY person, IS binary. Tough if you don’t like it. It should be clear that the use of the made up word “misgendering” is war: war on our language, which is war on reality.